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“I think it’s obvious that whatever “authority” the husband has is simply what the wife allows him to have. And it’s not so much authority as his “participation”. I just prefer to call it what it is rather than what it’s not.”

Elastigirl,
great scene. Thanks for sharing it. In many cases you are correct. It is just a way of gaining the husbands participation WHEN HE HAS THE IDEA THAT HE MUST BE THE INSTIGATOR. 🙂 If he didn’t think he needed to be the instigator than such staging wouldn’t be necessary.

However, we also know that many men take it beyond that and decide they must have all control.