Kay

Mark said: “Yes my wife and i are included in Eph 5:21 since we are both members of the Christian community. We are included in the ‘one another’ as are all Christians in the Church. We will submit to those in the Christian community that God places over us.”

Mark,

Does the wife have to obey the church authorities?
If so, do they have final say over the husband if it comes to that?

You have not yet explained why for YOU, “one another” does not mean “one another” but only “some to others?”

By your exegesis, YOU are not submitting to “one another” but only to “some others”- why are you excused from your own call for consistency in Bible exegesis?