Kay

Craig,
Here’s another thought to consider on the “big picture” – even Christian marriages between God loving spouses can and do encounter circumstances and tragedies beyond their control that render the husband unable to lead anyone. Logic and life itself reveal that husbands having the protector/provider leader role is not a univeral truth. Because, clearly we’ve all encountered exceptions in the lives of Christian neighbors, friends and family members with disabilities, illness and aging issues, who cannot fulfill that “role” even if they wanted to.

If a “biblical role” can have even one small exception, then it cannot possibly be a command for every marriage.