Craig

“6. Why can we not see that focusing on who is in charge, who is most important, etc, in Christian marriage or the Body of Christ is a very worldly and unChristian focus? So many try to turn “servant” into authority. The entire meaning is lost and it becomes a ‘religion’ of man and works. And it “usurps” the function of the Holy Spirit in believers lives.”
This may be true of some comps, but not all. The comps I know focus very much on loving, sacrificial service as the way of exercising leadership and authority. So they would not see this as an argument at all and I can agree with them.
A related issue is one I am thinking through though. Is there such a thing as “soft” authority? Leadership is exercised in a sacrificial loving way and so “taking authority” never really comes up. After 27 years of very happy marriage as a “soft” comp I have never used the “authority card”. We have always mutually decided on things and worked together as a team. I wore the leader badge but have never had to use it. So in this aspect, I am not sure if our marriage would practically change at all if we became egal. I am just seeking to know the truth. The question does the authority really exist if it is never exercised is a good one.