Craig

SM @169
you asked
“Are you saying that you always were/are the one responsible to make a decision if no agreement could be reached?”
Yes. But it never happened.
you asked
“On what basis does your responsibility lie?
I would have used the well known passages 1 Tim 2, Eph 5, 1Pet 3 etc
You asked
“Was/is this a responsibility that is non-transferrable?”
Do you mean to my wife? I would have answered no.
You asked
“Are their time limits or some type of criteria that had to be exhausted before you would have had to make the decision should you have come to an impasse? Were these agreed upon?
Never really thought about these things. Sounds too much like a legal contract! I just knew I had to put her needs ahead of mine, be willing to die for her- to love her as Christ loved the church. If I did that, the situation was never likely to come up because my wife is godly and loves me too.

Thanks, Craig, for you input. I know you are searching, too, so no pressure.