Craig

Thanks TL, but unless I am not following you I am not sure that this answers my “wonderings”. I am wondering why Paul chose “fear of Christ” rather than as a “loving response to God’s grace”as the motivation for submitting to one another. Maybe I am contrasting these too much?
Dave commented how “Jesus does not see his relationship with us as one of master/servant, but friends”.
If Dave is correct and this is the aspect of the relationship with Jesus that Paul is emphasizing when he tells wives to submit to husbands as to the Lord, why would he not say in v21 submit to one another out of “friendship with Christ” rather than out of “fear of Christ”?