Kristen

Christ does give the disciples as a group, commands. Also he tells the 12 after the Resurrection: “All authority in heaven and earth is given to me. Go you therefore. . . ”
In other words, the Father (who is the source of all authority) has given it all to Christ, who then sends his church out in his authority. The church, then, functions as a partner with Christ, acting in Christ’s authority. As his Body, she is “together” with him in authority, and the passages which describe the “head-body” relationship focus on that togetherness. But I think that Christ has the power to command the church, so authority is implied in that.
But husbands and wives who are Christians are BOTH in the church. I think the complementarians forget that. They act like only husbands are in the church, and the wives are sort of like add-ons. The wife is just as much under the direct authority of Christ as the husband is. It isn’t a heirarchy.
But I think that in the final consummation, when we become “like Him, for we will see Him as He is,” authority will become moot/obsolete. There will be no more need of commands, for our desires will be united with God’s (and yet somehow still be our own).