Terri

I sometimes wonder if complimentarian women defend hierarchy out of self preservation. Young girls are raised to be passive in thier relationships with boys. Carolyn Curtis James, the author of ‘When life and beliefs collide’ made the comment in a taped conference that she was conditioned/instructed to lose any game she played against her brothers. I thought that was an interesting comment, as I have heard other women say the same thing. Most young girls are rewarded for “bowing out” or “dumbing down” to make boys feel masterful. Its no wonder we see what we see in society or the church, should we act surprised? The desire for male approval in some women is so strong that submission, denial of ones talents, abilities, and gifts is a small sacrifice for such a great reward. With Mrs. James it seems the ability to try hard to be a loser was what made her a great sister (my opinion.) For complimentarians the preservation of female inferiority (which equals no visible authority) must be maintained even if the boundries are blurry and keep being moved, and women must be the first to agree with this and be happy about it (go along to get along, self preservation.)

When some authority is given to some complimentarian women (like Diane at Carm.org) she goes into preservation and protector mode. She has to preserve what little authority she has been given and she must use it to protect her man. She could never disagree with her man because POOF there goes the little authority that she has been given.

I hope that does’nt sound mean spirited but that is what I have observed as an infrequent lurker at Carm.