Terri

I walked upon a discussion between two dear sisters and a dear brother last night. Catching the very last comment of the conversation, “Its better to live on a roof top then in the house with a brawling women” (all three laughed.) I sat down behind my brother and said, ‘ I don’t find to many examples of brawling women in the bible, but I can find alot of mean men’ (crickets chirping.) Matter of fact nobody gave me one example of a brawling/quarelsome woman from the bible. And as I walked away I heard one sister whisper to the brother, I’m just assuming it was about my egalitarian leanings which they mistake for burning liberal feminism. Like most women I guess I am expected to laugh at things I no longer find funny. Why many feel the need to constantly tear down the female gender is beyond me. Maybe the tendancy of some to always be critical and negative about women in general precludes you from taking them seriously (and women themselves play into this.)

I have asked my pastor three questions:

1. Can you please locate the scripture that says that the husband is the head of the (home?)

2. Can you please tell me which group of people are exluded in the submission ethic in Ephesians 5:21, it says submitting yourselves one to another, who does that exclude?

3. If Ephesians 5:22-33 has it’s roots in authority why did Paul use the example of (Jesus as Saviour and his crucifixion) instead of (Jesus as Lord Master of all) to teach husbands how to love thier wives?

I felt the need to ask him these questions as he was using terms like; chain-of-command, Supreme ruler, Gods protocol to describe male and female relationships. As of yet he has not responded to my questions, and this has been months ago. He is friendly enough with me but I can feel the vibes of disapproval for even asking such things. The implication is that while you are defending women that you are simultaneously berating men, or the fact that you are defending women means you are not defending men………which really means, you hate men???