Paula

All I know is that having authority over someone or being responsible for them is not another form of submission. That’s like saying black is another form of white.

What Jesus did was to lay down his authority and position to serve and die for his “bride”. In his humanity, Christ was not a “servant leader” at all, but a model servant, showing all of us, men and women, how to relate to God– certainly not how men should act like God to women, or how only women should act like the Son to the Father.

What parts of Jesus’ human example are men not to follow? What parts are women not to follow? Is “Christ-likeness” only for men if it’s about leadership, and only for women if its about submission? No!! Christ is the example for all of us in how we should relate to God and to each other. And none of us are ever to play God to another person.

Domination is not submission.
A parent/child relationship is not an example of mutual submission.
Authority is not equality.
Bossing is not serving.
Wanting to be a permanent child is not mature or responsible.
Treating a man as God is idolatry.
Pretending to be a god is blasphemy.
The first shall be last.
The greatest must be the least.
The eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you”.