Alison

Thanks much, Cheryl. The whole debate is much like a dog chasing is own tail sometimes; funny to watch, but not funny to actually be the dog chasing its tail. I say that because I’ve felt like the dog: I’ve felt like I’ve hit on answers through the Spirit, only to be told by a comp that what I’ve hit on is wrong.

I’ve come to realize that regardless of what my mentor thinks, my spouse and I (if I ever get married) will have to prayerfully discern what will work for us, which will look different than what works for someone else’s marriage. Hopefully, we’ll both be stumbling forward together, and even when we step on each other’s toes, we can work it out in the way God shows us, independent of what other people think I “should” do.