Alison

Never thought of it that way, gengwall. I thought through the issue today at work a little more, and realized that part of the hangup for me has been “leading” vs. “submitting”, and the trouble I was having with those terms. I further realized that there are going to be things in my marriage that my spouse is stronger in dealing with, and my “submitting” to him will mean letting him lead in those areas, and vice versa. I can only hope that he will understand that if there’s something I’m stronger in, his “submitting” to me will allow me to thrive by doing what I do best, just as my “submitting” to his strengths does for him.

This might be starry-eyed naivete, but I believe it can be fleshed out. I know it will probably be incredibly difficult, but I believe both he and I will be the stronger for it. As for my spiritual mentor, I believe that she’s sharing from her heart, and I need to respect that.