truthseeker

Cheryl, it is sooooo true that many feel they cannot leave. I am blessed (?) to have a spouse who has not been unkind towards me for leaving his comp church though it has certainly caused waves and has not been easy for me at all. I feel for those women who are in danger of losing their families over this. I reached the point where I could no longer go to the comp church. It grieved me too deeply and upset my conscience too strongly. A number of people, including women, urged me to ‘go with my husband to his church’ and I am sick of hearing that.

There is SO much catering to men that goes on in comp world. Women are left to fend for themselves within the horror of comp theology. They have to submerge so much of what God never intended for them to submerge, and they have to live with it.

Lately, I have chosen to say little in my defense. First, because I find that often the other party is not interested other than looking for toeholds for their own beliefs on the matter. Second, because sometimes silence is better, coupled with refusal to participate in a corrupt or misguided system. Nonetheless, I would echo Harriet Tubman’s sentiments regarding slavery. She said she would rather try to escape and die trying than remain enslaved. That is the point I reached regarding remaining within a comp church.