Cheryl Schatz

Kay,

I see your post as an extremely powerful one. I am so glad that you wrote what you did!

I see that complementarians so often state that women who do what is supposed to be the husband’s “role” are in sin. You have clearly pointed out where it is impossible for her not to take over this “role” and how could it be a sin in this situation. Situational sin cannot be a universal law.

I also wonder if comps equally attribute “sin” to a husband who stays home with the kids as a service to his wife and family while his wife does outside the home what she is clearly gifted to do. Is now his cooking and cleaning and wiping a runny nose now usurping his wife’s “role”? Is he in sin? Often it seems to only go only way but this comes across as a bias. We are not to apply the “law” in a biased way.

The solution? Recognize that there is no such demands of God for husbands and wives to have “roles”. They need to work out their own marriage in a one-flesh union that works for them. This is what God has ordained and He gives us much grace and latitude to live out our one-flesh union.