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gengwell @112
It is so refreshing to see a father caring for his daughter (and his wife) in such a way! What an exciting time for you. I pray that your daughter’s wedding goes well.
I had never even heard of the terms “comps” and “egal” until a few weeks ago when I came across this website (by accident), but I can concur from experience that the comp view will ALWAYS crush a woman in some way, shape or form… even the “soft” comps.
My mother was widowed at 19, had me 2 days after hearing the news, was saved in a bowling alley 6 weeks after her husband’s death, her life was transformed dramatically, and she headed off to Bible college six months after that with a little girl in tow, as she believed that God had a calling on her life for missions.
However, at Bible college she was taught the woman’s “place” in the home, and was told that her calling by God would only be through her husband’s calling. She met her husband there and they came to Australia as missionaries 35 or so years ago.
While she has the heart of an evangelist and has shared the Word with many, and has led many many people to the Lord over the years… it has all been done “outside of the church” of course. The only time she was ever able to “teach” within church where men were present, was when she gave her testimony… and she always made sure she got some little bit of “preaching” in there! lol
To use your words, my father was also the “typical authoritarian “head of the family” through most of his marriage. And my mother was the typical sweet, dutiful, supportive, “submissive” (in the comp sense of that word) wife. But inside, she was torn up and had some bitterness and heartache stored up.
To be given a gift and calling from God, but then to be told it is His will that you put it aside (literally bury it) and that your “place” is behind your husband to support him in all that he does, submit to him, be in the home (and that usually means the kitchen!… unless it is convenient to the husband for you to be out working a job), and that your “worth” is in childbearing and child-rearing, will eventually have its devastating soul-destroying effects, even if the woman does it willingly and lovingly as her “submissive sacrifice”. It not only affects the wife, but it also affects the views the children will have of God, and their worth in God’s economy.. especially for young girls.

Cheryl… I am still studying and searching all these things out for myself, but I want you to know that I am so blessed to have come across this website, and to be learning about the egal view of Scripture. I’m so glad God has called you in this way, and that my own personal circumstances have pushed me into searching for answers so that I have been able share them with my parents, all the rest of my siblings/family and my brothers and sisters in Christ. I’ve been pleasantly surprised by not only the willingness of all those around me to look at it from this perspective (even the angry ones!), but also how quickly everyone is grasping it! I’m getting texts and emails and phone calls galore with wow! wow! wow! moments on other Scriptures that they’ve all found in support of this view. It is exciting to see people quickened and spurred on in faith with the truth of God’s Word.