truthseeker

Lin, I agree. The softest comp marriage out there may be the safest-amongst comp and patriarchal marriages, but it is still comp and it is comp strictly by virtue of believing that men outrank women-always. That is why I can’t even endorse the softest comp marriages in principle no matter how soft and nice they are. Does that mean I disfellowship with my soft and not so soft comp friends? Not at all. It just means I cannot endorse even the ‘softest’ compism on principle.

Soft comp marriages and theology provide a spiritual glass ceiling for women that is not really so soft and nice after all. The disclaimer I need to make here is that if a marriage is absolutely egal in practice then it is not soft comp and shouldn’t be entered into the discussion as such. However, the danger lies in having those who are in marriages which are practically egal and theoretically comp supporting comp theology nonetheless. They think they have a wonderful comp marriage when they actually may have a wonderfully egal marriage, but the credit goes incorrectly to compism.

The dangers of genuine soft compism have been discussed elsewhere so I won’t go into them here. They are very real, however.