Lin

“That is why I can’t even endorse the softest comp marriages in principle no matter how soft and nice they are. Does that mean I disfellowship with my soft and not so soft comp friends? Not at all. It just means I cannot endorse even the ’softest’ compism on principle. ”

This is my position, too. It is based on the scripture. I also keep in mind that places like Southern Baptist Theological Seminary started out as soft comp and are now teaching Patriarchy. This is why you see so many soft comp pastors doing hermeneutical gymnastics in their sermons and being downright illogical.

“However, the danger lies in having those who are in marriages which are practically egal and theoretically comp supporting comp theology nonetheless. They think they have a wonderful comp marriage when they actually may have a wonderfully egal marriage, but the credit goes incorrectly to compism. ”

This was a particular problem with me. I saw so many egal type marriages that put on a comp mask at church. I also saw many comp authors, conference speakers who had wives who were like Patton charging up Italy back stage (very competent and in control of the comp business) and then went on stage and played the submissive comp wife. It got old. the whole comp industry started seeming fake to me. I think I have seen too much. :o(

BTW: Dave is right. What was legal in the 1st Century is now illegal. Since they are good laws we should obey the civil authorities. (Too bad many pastors will not adivse women to report the abuse. What does that say about them and obeying the civil authorities? )