Kay

“As such, I believe that anything purposely done by a man (or woman) to “kick into gear” their sexual biology, no matter how minor, violates their spouses authority over their body.
What do you think?”

gengwall,
I think that I like the way you think. 😉

And I like the way you said, “purposely done” because I don’t think it’s humanly possible to quit noticing attractive things about other people – it’s what we do with those split second thoughts.

(Exceptions for situations of mental illness and depression, etc. of course)