Alex

pinklight:

You asked for an example, so here is one I have seen.

In one instance a husband and wife were trying to decide whether they wanted to home school their children or put them into either public or private school. The wife was home schooled growing up and was more inclined to home schooling. The husband wasn’t against homeschooling, but had his doubts that it was feisable in their house. The reason? They have 5 children of varying ages and the wife in this situation is not a very organized person. She is educated, but she does not have much of a teaching gift and (as I just mentioned) she is a very unorganized person. The two of them went out and looked at a wife variety of Public and Private schools in there city and found multiple schools that they agreed with that would also be great for educating their children.

There is nothing biblical that defines how we educate our children. It is not sinful to go one way or the other. However, after doing this research the wife still felt she wanted to home school and the husband felt that it wouldn’t be best for her. After long discussions on both sides they could not come to an agreement. The wife wanted to home school and the husband felt they shouldn’t (because it would wear on the wife too much).

In the end, to make this decision, since they could not agree he finally asked her to trust him and to allow him to lead her in this way. She agreed (though she still felt she was right). Several years later she is so glad for this decision. She realizes she wouldn’t have been able to handle teaching 5 children of varying ages amongst all her other responsibilities. She is thankful for his leadership in this area even though she disagreed at the time. Her entire reasoning for wanting to home school the kids was because she was home schooled as a child.

There is an example of the trump card. It’s purpose was to make sure both the wife and the children received the best possible outcome regardless of what they wanted at the time.

You may disagree with this outcome, but she doesn’t. She is extremely grateful. These are the kinds of situations married couples find themselves in. And if a husband is truly leading his family, praying and fasting and reading the scriptures, listening to what his wife has to say, and taking in all the facts in a situation, then in these situations it is not wrong to do what he did.