Mark

Let me give one small sample of how i believe my wife chooses to submit to me as her head and the leader of our family.

When we have dinner our children are not allowed to leave the table until they have finished and until everyone else is finished. If both my wife and i are present and one of my children asks to hop down from the table, my wife will always tell the kids that they need to ask me, even if they have asked her first.
I have never commanded that she do this. I have never asked her to do this to show her submission to me. I believe and know she does this to show that she respects me as the head of our house. She believes this is one way she can instill into our children how the Father leads the home. Now is this something she does voluntarily- yes it is. Is it something i command- no it is not. It is an act of submission on her part to recognise my authority as both a husband and a father. It teaches our children that when both mum and dad are around, dad is the one in authority. She could quite legitimately tell the kids they can hop down, but she chooses to point the decision over to me.

Yet it is never something i command or tell her to obey. Hope this helps and please don’t attempt to exegete my words over the computer. Thanks