Cheryl Schatz

Mark,
Your wife’s respect for you is admiral. But are you saying that you are not to display this same kind of respect for her?

Example: Your kids have asked something of your wife and she has told them that they cannot do what they asked. They come to you and ask permission and you don’t see anything wrong with them doing whatever they asked of you. Do you just ignore the refusal your wife has given and go against her “no” to the children? Or do you make your children respect their mother’s denial of their request? Are you not allowed by the command of God to submit your “yes” to the children to her previous “no”? Are you really trying to tell us that the respect that your wife gives you will never be given to her with your children because your “yes” will override their mother’s “no” so that the children will learn to bypass their mother’s “law” and to see her as someone whose “law” is not upheld?

Also where does your authority act out in your example? How have you taken authority over your wife? Can you please explain this part while you are showing us why you are not allowed to submit to your wife’s decision with the children. Thanks!