Cheryl Schatz

gengwall,
You said:

Why on earth would I trust me to decide everything for us when we do such a better job at it.

That is it! Why should one person be given the license to make every decision when two people coming to a mutual decision using both of their gifts and input from both is the best for both? If a mutual decision doesn’t come right away, maybe God is saying that more work is needed for a one-flesh decision. Giving only the husband a final decision-making power or authority is bypassing the hard work of mutuality. It may be an easy way out for a woman who isn’t used to making decisions, but how will she learn? Not by giving over her responsibility. And as I said, one person making all the decisions promotes selfishness and I don’t think any wife should want to promote that.