John 3 born-again analogy: the Calvinist 'you don't choose to be born' argument is overextended

Mike identifies the argument as likely Calvinist: just as you did not choose your first birth, you do not choose your second (spiritual) birth. He responds: analogies always break down — you don't get tiny and helpless at the new birth either. More importantly, the reason you cannot choose in physical birth is that you do not yet exist; in spiritual rebirth you already exist, so the obstacle to choice is gone. The analogy describes the nature of transformation, not the mechanism of volition.