Mark

Cheryl,

thanks again for talking to me. I do not think i live out an egal marriage. I do try to love and serve my wife as if it is my own body. I try hard not to abuse my position of leadership and focus my energy and helping my wife and children become more like Christ. However my wife recognises that although co heirs in the grace of Christ, i bear a certain resposiblitly for our family that she does not. When a tough decision has to be made we talk about and my wife expresses her opinions, thoughts and concerns. But she will ultimatley leave the decision up to me as the ‘head’ of our family to make the right decision. She willingly submits to me in this way and respects me as her husband, of which i am eternally grateful. She recognises that i am sinful and Christ is not, and ultimately Christ is her Lord not me. and even as the head if i tried to lead her astray she would refuse. I would hope that she would encourage me to grow more like Christ in the same way i do for her. This is how i understand Eph 5 and live it out. I try to love her as CHrist does his church, and she tries to submit to me as the church does to Chrsit. Obviously we are both sinners and fail all the time to fulfill these God ordained roles.

Im not sure what comps you base all your opinions on, but it is nothing like what the comp position teaches nor what i have seen in my experience. I am saddened though that men abuse the comp pos for their own glorification. Any comp i know would not restrict women preaching to women and the like. I do not think people miss out on anything by not having a woman pastor/preaher- the word of God is not gender orientated. They miss out if preachers are gender orientated.

I’m not sure whether you see yourself as gifted in teaching, but you are definately gifted in writing. I have never seen somebody so able to write as much as you do 🙂