Winger explains headship means the husband has a higher position of authority (not the only authority) — when they disagree, the deciding vote goes to the husband. But Jesus commands this be exercised with grace, love, and self-sacrifice, never 'lording it over' the wife.

Q&A question: What does a husband being the head of the wife actually mean he does? Does he boss her around or just be a good man?

Is Doubting OK?: I love Mark 9: 24 - “I believe, help my unbelief.” But how do we understand that along with James 1:6-8 which says to ask in faith with no doubting, as the one who doubts will not receive anything from the Lord?

Q&A question: Is Doubting OK?

Remembering the Unsaved in Heaven?: I would like to know, when we are in Heaven, will we just forget about those we loved on Earth that weren't saved? I can't imagine how there could be no sorrow if we remember them.

Q&A question: Remembering the Unsaved in Heaven?

A Cure for Hypocrisy: What is the cure for hypocrisy? I have stopped going to church because I feel rotten on the inside and feel like a fraud. I don’t seem to love Jesus like others. My heart is cold. No emotion.

Q&A question: A Cure for Hypocrisy

Can the Bible Become an Idol?: Is it possible to love the Bible so much that it can be a form of an idol?

Q&A question: Can the Bible Become an Idol?

Should Youth Pastors Simplify or Go Deep?: I absolutely love being a new Youth Pastor! However, I often find myself going over my students' heads. A small group of them tell me they're thrilled to "actually learn something." I'm conflicted on whether I should simplify my messages in an effort to hold as many attention spans as possible, or keep going into deeper waters to continue feeding those that seem to be benefiting from it. Thoughts?

Q&A question: Should Youth Pastors Simplify or Go Deep?

Does God Love Everyone?: I hear some people make the claim that God doesn't love everyone. If God doesn't love everyone, how can He require that we love our neighbor (neighbor defined as Jesus defined it in Luke 10) as ourselves?

Q&A question: Does God Love Everyone?

Repentant but Still Rejected: I was rejected by my church because of my behavior, PTSD & my mouth. They didn’t excommunicate me but stopped talking to me/started ignoring me. I’ve repented, apologized, and begged but they still ignore me. It has left me feeling flawed & unloved. What would Scripture tell me about my situation?

Q&A question: Repentant but Still Rejected

Biblically, how is “Neighbor” Defined?: Is there a biblical definition for the term “neighbor”? I've always thought it was a term used to describe a non-believer who shows love to a Christian (or means them no harm).

Q&A question: Biblically, how is “Neighbor” Defined?

Are We Called to Love AND “Like” Others?: Do I have to like a brother in Christ? I know I should love my neighbor and not hate anyone, but there are some personalities I don't like. Is that sinful?

Q&A question: Are We Called to Love AND “Like” Others?

Navigating a Difficult Marital Situation: Am I dishonoring God if I initiate separation? I’ve been married for over 12 years, always rocky. I've begged for counseling, but my husband (professing believer) said he'd pick divorce first. He says he no longer loves me.

Q&A question: Navigating a Difficult Marital Situation

Grieving our Loved Ones when Not Sure of Salvation: My mom just passed away and I am unsure of her salvation. I know she prayed with the hospital's chaplains. My kids ask if they will see her in Heaven. How do I talk to them about this?

Q&A question: Grieving our Loved Ones when Not Sure of Salvation

Are Easier Translations Unwise?: I struggle reading word for word translations of the Bible like the ESV. I love the NLT for its simple vocabulary and how easy it is to understand. Is it unwise to use the NLT to memorize and study from?

Q&A question: Are Easier Translations Unwise?

Deceased Loved Ones & Necromancy?: Is going to the cemetery and talking to loved ones necromancy?

Q&A question: Deceased Loved Ones & Necromancy?

Is Love God’s Chief Trait?: Is love God’s chief trait, or just one of them? Is it right to call all He does (i.e., punishing sin) an act of love, or are some things done in keeping with His holiness, justice, etc.?

Q&A question: Is Love God’s Chief Trait?

How to Love Your Neighbor As Yourself: What does it mean to love your neighbor as yourself? Do I put their needs equal to mine, or above mine?

Q&A question: How to Love Your Neighbor As Yourself

Stay Focused on Christ!: How do I keep my mind on Jesus all day? I often get so distracted and conform to the ways of people around me. This is the thing I struggle with the most. I’d love your advice!

Q&A question: Stay Focused on Christ!

Our Motive for Good Deeds: Is it good to do good deeds purely to get heavenly rewards, since you have such great faith in the reward? Or is it bad because your motives are selfish/reward-centered and not centered around love for others?

Q&A question: Our Motive for Good Deeds

How to Pray for our Enemies: How can we pray for our enemies biblically? Especially those actively trying to kill those you love.

Q&A question: How to Pray for our Enemies

Avoiding Anger while Guiding Others: I see a lot of New Age-ish things (energy, manifesting, vibes) creeping into Christ followers’ lives around me. I’ve gotten blow-back trying to correct people in love. Do you have any advice about how to continue the conversation without angering them?

Q&A question: Avoiding Anger while Guiding Others

Is “Bodybuilding” Biblical?: My friends and I love natural bodybuilding. Is it biblical to work on your body to one day showcase it in minimal clothing on a bodybuilding stage or on social media in a non-sexual way?

Q&A question: Is “Bodybuilding” Biblical?

Overcoming the Grip of Sin: What’s the balance between the Holy Spirit changing us, and us trying to do good works and love God? I just feel so stuck in my sin. I don’t know how to get out of this habit. I’m scared my repentance isn’t real.

Q&A question: Overcoming the Grip of Sin

JD Vance’s Christian Concept: Is JD Vance’s “Christian concept” of love truly Christian?

Q&A question: JD Vance’s Christian Concept

Do God’s Children Deserve God’s Love?: We always say we don't "deserve anything" from God, but how biblical is this? Don't children deserve a degree of love from their parents?

Q&A question: Do God’s Children Deserve God’s Love?

Agape vs. Phileo Love: Are agape and phileo love synonymous in Greek? John 3: 19 & John 12: 43 use agape for loving darkness and men's praise, respectively, while John 5: 20 uses phileo to describe the Father's love for the Son.

Q&A question: Agape vs. Phileo Love

Balancing Kindness & “Tough Love”: How do you maintain kindness in the midst of tension while advocating for yourself or others? Some people lean toward kindness and don't speak up, while others lean toward speaking harsh truth, with an emphasis on harshness.

Q&A question: Balancing Kindness & “Tough Love”

Resentful of the Father but Not the Son?: After a long and HARD life, I sometimes feel almost resentful of GOD the Father whom I’ve never seen, heard, or felt. But every day I love JESUS more and more. Is this normal?

Q&A question: Resentful of the Father but Not the Son?

Winger says Eph 5:22 and Col 3:18 apply regardless of whether the husband is a Christian — the qualifier is 'your husband,' not 'your Christian husband.' Submission is not 100% in every possible thing, and exceptions exist for abuse, but the exception shouldn't be used to invalidate the rule.

Q: How should a newly Christian woman apply Eph 5:22 and Col 3:18 when her husband hasn't come to Christ and isn't supportive?

Does God Choose to Love Us?: Does God choose to love us? If He Himself is love and He can't help but love us, why should we feel honored by it? Doesn't that take away the meaningfulness of it?

Q&A question: Does God Choose to Love Us?

Loving God Above Family: My husband is an unbeliever. He recently told me he can't be a believer because he idolizes me and our kids and couldn't love God more than us. Beyond praying, how can I address this biblically?

Q&A question: Loving God Above Family

Higher Healing Statistics?: Christians tend to pray for the healing of their loved ones when they are physically unwell, there should be a statistically measurable difference in health levels among Christians vs. non-Christians. Do we see it?

Q&A question: Higher Healing Statistics?

Spiritually Guiding our Loved Ones: My mom is a baby Christian (2 years), but she feels most comfortable in an Orthodox church. She seems to be growing in her faith there. Should I intervene or just let her go where she feels led?

Q&A question: Spiritually Guiding our Loved Ones

More Important: Faith or Love?: 1 Corinthians 13: 13 says love is greater than faith. So then why do we treat faith as more important for grand things like salvation?

Q&A question: More Important: Faith or Love?

Sin Struggles = Double Minded?: What's the difference between being a double-minded man (James 1:8) and being a sincere Christian struggling with sin and the flesh's love for sinful things (Romans 7: 14-25)? Can you draw a distinction?

Q&A question: Sin Struggles = Double Minded?

Earning vs. Receiving God’s Love: How do I go from trying to earn God’s love, to just receiving it?

Q&A question: Earning vs. Receiving God’s Love

Love Confusion

God Is Love

A note left on Winger's car in response to his "Former Embryo on Board" bumper sticker argued that abortion is justified when a parent can't provide love, financial support, or a non-abusive home. Winger uses this as a case study in pro-choice reasoning, arguing its logic is genocidal because it ties human value to external conditions rather than inherent worth.

The bumper sticker note as a test case for examining pro-choice reasoning

If human value depends on whether a parent wants you and loves you, then all people who are unloved or unwanted by their parents become valueless. Genesis 1:27 and 9:6 establish that human value is innate and image-based — grounded in being made in God's image — not dependent on parental affirmation or social circumstance.

Theological argument: image of God as the basis of innate human value vs. conditional value logic

Effective outreach to JWs requires using their own sources (the Kingdom Interlinear, JW Library app, Watchtower literature) to demonstrate problems — since they are trained to dismiss all outside sources as apostate. The goal is to create goodwill first, then focus on one issue at a time without allowing subject changes, showing genuine love rather than hostility.

Practical strategies for engaging Jehovah's Witnesses with the gospel